Support Athlete Survivors with Care

Listen & Believe

• Believe their story without judgment.
• Use their language—do not label their experience for them.
• Validate their courage and bravery.
• Ensure they feel safe and supported.
• Help them create a safety plan if needed.
• Let survivors share their story through their own narratives. Do not interrupt with questions or qualifications.

Key points to remember

The most powerful way to support a survivor is to listen with empathy and to believe them. Use the words they are comfortable with. Do not force labels like “assault” if they are not ready. Offer validation: “I believe you,” “This is not your fault,” “Thank you for trusting me.” Ensure their physical and emotional safety by helping them identify effective coping strategies, safe and trusted people to contact, and mental health resources if desired.

Please note that if the survivor is a child (minor under the age of 18) or a vulnerable adult, inform them of any mandated reporting requirements. About Reporting Abuse

Respect privacy

• Keep their disclosure private. Unless you are required to report abuse by law.
• Do not share their story with others, even with close friends.
• Stay calm and composed.
• Know your limits—you are not a therapist.
• Help them find professional support.

Key points to remember

Confidentiality is crucial. Avoid telling others about their disclosure, even if intentions are good. Maintain a calm presence; your emotional reactions can influence theirs. It is okay to say, “I’m here for you, but I also want to help you find a professional who can support you further.” Respecting their privacy, while acknowledging when external support is needed, builds trust.

Empower Choices

• Allow them to make decisions about next steps.
• Respect their choice to report or not report.
• Avoid pushing them toward action.
• Reinforce their autonomy.
• Support without taking control.

Key points to remember

After experiencing abuse, survivors often feel a loss of control. Your role is to help them regain that power by supporting their decisions and choices. Whether they choose to report or focus on healing privately, respect their choice. Avoid language that pressures or directs them. Empowerment is at the heart of trauma recovery—let them lead. They are in control of their own healing journey.

Care for Yourself

• Supporting a survivor can be emotionally heavy.
• Practice self-care to maintain your own well-being.
• Seek your own support if needed.
• Know that it is okay to need help, too.
• Resources for them are also for you.

Supporting a friend through trauma can take an emotional toll. It’s essential to care for yourself as well. Self-care, setting boundaries, and seeking professional help are all valid and necessary. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Prioritize your well-being so you can continue to be a supportive ally. The resources you provide to them may also be beneficial to you.